Dive into Mark S. Weng’s (18) world of spanking! From playful taps to intense sessions – this guide reveals his favorite positions, tools, and personal anecdotes. Discover why spanking is more than just pain and how to make this thrilling game safe and consensual. Ready to explore your bottom?
Why Spanking Stole My Heart (and My Butt)
Hey everyone, Mark here! 👋 What’s up? I’m Mark, I turned 18 this year, and I’m in the middle of a crazy self-discovery adventure here in Germany. It feels like I was washed ashore from super conservative China, and I’m soaking up every new freedom like a sponge. I’m starting my Biology degree this fall, and my enthusiasm for kink is a huge part of this journey! You can find more about me in the introduction article on my website.
You might be wondering why I, of all people, am talking about spanking and even giving tips. It’s simple: it’s my absolute top kink, and it has been forever! Even as a little Mark, at six or seven years old, I found it fascinating. When we played hide-and-seek or tag, we’d sometimes add a little “punishment,” and a slap on the butt was an option that I… well, let’s just say I learned to love very quickly. And that love has stuck with me! Sure, I’m often the one who gets the handprints—and I’ve always got a grin on my face when I do. But I can dish it out too! In this article, I’m taking you into my world of spanking, sharing my best tips, and showing you how to make this thrilling game safe and exciting.
Spanking: More Than Just a Slap on the Butt
A lot of people think spanking is just about pain, but that’s way too simple! For me, it’s a mix of trust, control, and surrender that’s just incredibly intense. It can range from super light and playful to intensely wild—and that’s exactly what makes it so versatile and exciting.
Back in China, it was a thing for me, even if it was often more about the fetish itself. But here in Europe? It’s a total game changer! Things get seriously sexual and passionate here! It’s all about that intense connection, sharing a passion together, and sexual desire. It’s just insane! ✨ And honestly, most people have already built some spanking into their sex life, haven’t they? No need to be ashamed, and you’re definitely not alone with this preference! 😉
Safety First! Consent Is Key.
Before we even get into the details, the most important thing about spanking is consent! Always! Without a clear “yes” at all times, nothing is happening. Talk about it beforehand: What do you want? What are your limits? What feels good? And most importantly: a safeword! A word that immediately stops everything, no matter what. That’s not unsexy, that’s smart and respectful. Remember: it’s about having a hot time together where everyone feels good and has fun. Trust is the foundation of every good spank! 😊
The Positions
Over the Lap (or Knee): The Classic with an Intimate Twist
This is the absolute classic everyone knows! One person kneels or sits, and the spankee lies belly-down over their lap. It’s super intimate, and you can look each other deep in the eyes (or not, if it gets too intense, haha). Perfect for gentle beginnings or for building a deeper connection. You can control the intensity wonderfully and even throw in some tender touches in between.
Over a Table, Bed Edge, etc.: The Power of Position
This is where it gets a bit more intense. The spankee bends over a piece of furniture or the spanker’s knees, so the butt is nicely exposed. This position often signals a certain dominance and surrender. The spanker has good control over the angle and the force of the slaps. I personally love it when my butt is sticking up like that—it’s perfect for getting a few extra red handprints! 😈 It’s great for harder slaps, but also for slow, lingering touches that build anticipation for the next hit.
The Spanking Bench: When It’s Time for Real Business
Okay, for those who really want to go for it: the spanking bench! This isn’t a walk in the park; it’s a special piece of furniture designed to perfectly present the butt and make it accessible. You lie belly-down on the bench, often with your wrists and ankles secured, so your butt is basically floating in the air. This is a position of total surrender and makes it incredibly easy for the spanker to work over every square inch of your ass. The feeling of being so helpless and exposed at the same time is just unbelievable. The tension builds, and every slap lands directly and unfiltered. For me as a spankee, it’s a total rush! 🔥 This position is definitely for advanced sessions and, as always, requires total communication and trust.
Standing (Leaning/Bent Over): Quick Action or Intense Arousal
Sometimes you need to be quick, or you just want a short, intense session. Standing, leaning against a wall or bent over, can be super arousing. The butt is easily accessible, and it often feels more direct. This is a good way to play with rhythm: a few quick slaps, then a pause, then start again. Perfect for when you want to spontaneously give in to the game.
Diaper Position: For That Extra Kick of Humiliation or Playfulness
Now, this is where things get really interesting for everyone who’s into the game of humiliation and regression—the Diapers position. This is when the spankee lies on their back, just like you would lay a little kid down for a diaper change, with their legs held high in the air. This position plays with the idea of helplessness and regressing to a childlike role, which for many is an insane turn-on. It’s all about giving up control and accepting a “punishing” or “educative” hand. Although it might sound unusual, for some, this is an incredibly liberating and intensely arousing experience. It’s a very specific preference, but if you’re into it, it’s wild! 😉
For an Extra Thrill: When Restraints Spice Up the Game!
I already mentioned it in my “Origins” article: the feeling of being restrained is incredible for me. It’s a mix of losing control and total trust. You can’t move, and at the same time, there’s this intense calm because you can completely let go. That’s why being tied up isn’t its own “position” for me, but a super hot “spice” that can take any spanking session to a whole new level! No matter if it’s on the bench, over the knee, or even standing—when you’re also restrained, the feeling of surrender and being at someone’s mercy is amplified. You are so intensely in the moment, feeling every fiber of the ropes on your skin. And when you’re untied, it’s like a wave of liberation and euphoria. It’s almost addictive, this mix of surrender and the subsequent release! But be careful: This is definitely not for a first date! It takes a lot of trust for both people to truly let go.
The Tools – From Hand to Wooden Paddle
The Hand: The All-Rounder for Every Level
Let’s start with the simplest: the hand! It’s always there and can do everything. From very gentle caresses that create a tingle to really loud, sharp smacks. The advantage: you have full control over the intensity and can feel the spankee’s feedback immediately. Perfect for beginners and for everyone who loves a personal, intimate touch. A little insider tip: with longer hand-spanking, the spanker’s hand might hurt more than the spankee’s butt! 😉
The Leather Belt: Classic, Resonant, and Effective
The belt—an iconic tool! It makes that unmistakable “thwack” sound that can be arousing all on its own. You can use it flat for broad strikes or on its edge for sharper accents. Be careful: it gets intense quickly! Always use it with care and watch the spankee’s reactions closely. Ah, the belt! The absolute classic of old-school discipline, right? Sometimes I think, “those were the days!” Haha, or maybe not? 😉 If you want to use it yourself, here’s a little tip: if you fold the belt in half, it turns from a whip into more of a paddle. This makes it more controllable and allows you to aim better.
The Paddle: Broad and Impressive
Paddles come in all sorts of materials—wood, leather, silicone. They distribute the blow over a larger area, which often leads to a dull, deep pain that also leaves a satisfying feeling of fullness in the butt. Ideal for long sessions where you want the butt to get nice and red. I remember my ping-pong days in boarding school—the paddles weren’t always just for the ball, hehe. 😉 Leather paddles are hot, wooden paddles really hit deep, and believe me, rubber paddles can get super vicious if you use them right! 😉
The Cane/Riding Crop: Sharp, Precise, and for the Advanced
This is where it gets sharper and more focused! A cane or a thin crop creates a sharper, more precise pain that can feel like a sting. This is definitely not for beginners! It requires precision and experience. In boarding school, some teachers used a stick to teach us “discipline”—and yeah, I was a real brat sometimes and got a few extra doses of “discipline.” It was… interesting… and it definitely sparked my curiosity! This tool is for those who are really looking for deep, intense sensations and are ready to push their limits—of course, always with consent and a safeword! While hands and paddles usually just leave a red butt or bruises, a cane leaves very precise welts that can sometimes even break the skin. You definitely need to disinfect afterward. In general, I recommend good aftercare, including using a cream after the session. That’s super important for healing and well-being!
Creative Tools: What You Can Find Around the House
Get creative! A wooden spoon, a hairbrush, a rolled-up magazine—almost anything can become a spanking tool, as long as it’s safe and won’t cause injury. Important: no sharp edges, splinters, or materials that could tear. And always remember: experimenting is great, but safety comes before fun! My first experiences were with a giant wooden spoon used for cooking in big pots over an open fire—that was at Master Marc’s. Ugh, that thing is heavy and leaves deep bruises! 😅
Your Journey to Red Bliss
No matter what tool, position, or style – at the end of the day, it’s all about the feeling in your head, you know? Pain is usually stored as something totally negative, but I’m telling you: you can learn to love it. It’s like this crazy challenge for your own body and mind. You quickly realize how much your physical and mental state in a spanking situation extremely influences how much you can handle. For me personally, it’s the horny feeling and a kind of competitive vibe that make me endure a lot more. It’s a game where you push yourself to see how far you can go.
But you also have to prepare for it. And of course, if you know and trust someone, you can go so much further. Of course, the thrill with strangers also has its own special charm – like when you do it outdoors, where you could be discovered by anyone at any time. But still: Trust makes so much more possible. You know each other, you know what the other person wants, and you can just completely let go. That’s the absolute key to the best sessions! ✨
And the best part is: a good, intense spanking session is SUSTAINABLE. (Everything has to be sustainable these days to be good, haha). You can still feel it longer when you’re sitting and lying down. And you have these marks that can develop in color over the days. They are the proof that I went through with it, that I tested and expanded my limits. You can really get addicted to it, the marks should get “sexier” and sexier, always more visible – a sign of devotion and trust. It’s my personal red happiness. My trademark that I wear with pride. 😉
So, that was my first look into the exciting world of spanking. Whether you’re trying it yourself or just curious, I hope I was able to show you some exciting perspectives. Spanking is a super intimate and personal experience. It’s about letting go, trusting, and having a ton of fun. And the most important thing: always with consent, always with respect! I’m super excited for your comments and your own experiences! Have you ever tried any of this? Or do you have questions? Hit me up in the comments! I’m here to connect with you and rock this journey together! Let’s connect! ✨
And don’t worry, this is just the beginning! There are many more hot stories, pictures, and videos on my blog—you won’t want to miss it! 😉 I’m super excited for your comments, your wild ideas, and for you to stick around! I’m here to connect, so hit me up in the chat or leave a comment. What do you want to know about me next? Or maybe you have a cheeky story of your own to share? I’m all ears! Let’s rock this journey together!
