An Interview with the Bondage Master LONDONROPETOP.
MasterMarc: Hi LondonRopeTop (43). You’re into the kinky world for a long time. When have you done the first steps into this fascinating world and what have been your first experiences in it?
LondonRopeTop: I knew I liked bondage when I was a child, tying myself up. In fact, I knew I liked bondage before I realised I was gay. I did explore it a little more with my first boyfriends but only seriously started exploring fetish about 9 years ago after the end of a long term relationship.
When I started more seriously I was more of a rubber switch with some bondage thrown in. The bondage grew to take a big part and I seemed to be topping more and more as time went on.
MasterMarc: What it the main attraction of bondage for you?
LondonRopeTop: There are many attractions. It’s partly the aesthetics, partly the control, and a lot about the really intense connection it can bring between the sub and top.
Well if a sub is really into bondage then every piece of rope applied will elicit a response. I love to use the rope to build up the sexual tension and play with the sub’s mind. I like to keep building up the intensity and pace of play. The sub has completely lost control but is loving every minute of it. When we are in that space then there builds a really strong connection. For me it’s all about the pace, the moment, the connection. Tying someone up and leaving them alone does nothing for me at all.
MasterMarc: A lot of people who aren’t really into s/m think often, that the slave is serving and the top just enjoying his services. I know by myself how much “work” (of course also fun) it is, to top other guys. Isn’t it also a kind of service a top is giving to his boys and how would you characterize it?
LondonRopeTop: Yes it is a sort of service. It’s a pact where we are both trying to get what turns us on the most. It’s actually quite a subtle power dynamic. I want to see a sub really turned on and enjoying it so my play differs a lot between different subs as each sub has varying kink interests . I get a sub to tell me in advance everything they like to do and not do- I will then pick and choose what I want to do with them according to what they have said. It’s fine for a sub to describe what they like doing. It’s not good though for a sub to tell me what they want to do .
MasterMarc: You have indicated an important subject in your answer. Let’s talk about trust: How do you see the importance of trust in kinky games and in particular in the bondage world?
LondonRopeTop: Trust is fundamental in this sort of play. I have young subs coming to visit who are very nervous. They are breaking every sensible rule they have been told about the Internet. Going to meet a stranger in a private place and letting him tie them up. It’s important to try to build up some trust before the meeting and put a sub at ease. They need to believe you are sane and you won’t ignore their limits. A sub should always try to find out the reputation of a bondage top from other subs.
Once the bondage starts though, I always feel the nerves melting away once the rope goes on and they start to feel turned on by the experience.
MasterMarc: Do you have other advices for beginners?
LondonRopeTop: For beginners, when discussing a first meet try to be open and honest about what you’d like to explore but don’t get too focused on carrying out a specific fantasy you have in your head. Then in the play it is really important to be responsive. Don’t just lie there like a log expecting the top to know what you are thinking.
MasterMarc: As a very experienced bondage top what would be your advice for a top guy who wants to start with bondage? What are the first steps in your eyes?
LondonRopeTop: Start with simple bondage and learn how to do that well. I did a lot of spreadeagled to the bed sessions before I progressed on to other more advanced positions. If starting to use rope it’s well worth buying proper bondage rope and buying a couple of books on rope bondage to learn how to do it well. Getting good at bondage takes a lot of practice and lots of trial and error.
MasterMarc: Looking back on your experiences what have been for you the most intense actions and why?
LondonRopeTop: The most intense actions are always the plays where everything falls into place. I’m pushing the sub further than they have ever gone and they can’t get enough of it. There will be a really strong connection between us. They will be breathless with excitement. The play will flow perfectly and have pace. At the end the sub will often be speechless having just experienced the most intense sexual experience of their life. It doesn’t happen every time and I can never tell in advance if it will happen. I love it when it does though.
MasterMarc: That sounds satisfying. 🙂 I know out of my life that there is allways an evolution in the personal lived S/M. Phantasies and aims make things hum. What are your phantasies you would really like to realize in the future?
LondonRopeTop: I think I have explored most of my fantasies now. It’s more about the people than the bondage itself now that gets my fantasies going. I might see a person in the street or a photo of a person so perfect looking and I will briefly linger on the thought of them in my playroom.
MasterMarc: You really seem to be satisfied. That’s great. Thank you for this interview and i wish you all the best for your future and a lot of exciting and satisfying moments in your top life.
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