Forget hiding in the shadows. For me, kink is a social lifestyle, and a slave is the Master’s business card. From elite dungeon parties with the Puppeteer to the “showcase effect” of public events, discover how to lead with a long leash without losing control. Learn why cage time is decompression – and why my property isn’t everyone’s slave.

I’ve heard of many so-called “Masters” who, once they find a young, hot slave, immediately want to lock them away. They act out of fear – fear of losing them, fear of the world outside. Others live their kink in total secrecy, hiding their true selves from everyone around them.

That is definitely not my style.

For me, the kink lifestyle is a social lifestyle, just like any other. I want to put my slaves in chains, but I never want to close the world to them. As I wrote in the article “The Blind and the Immobile,” I see myself as a gatekeeper to the kink world. I don’t bind my boys to me by excluding the outside world; I bind them by trust and by the deep sense of knowing exactly where – and to whom – they belong. However, even within this Master-centric worldview, an outside world exists. I don’t want to cut them off from it; instead, I want them to explore it within a controlled and protected framework. In this kink world beyond our immediate Kink Family, I am their guide and their safety anchor.

For me, kink is a lifestyle, not a sexual roleplay. This means it’s about far more than just the sexaual act itself. My slaves, my kink friends, and I don’t just meet for “action” – we gather for perfectly normal activities. This could be a board game night in the dungeon, a shared meal, a trip to the cinema, or even hiking, sports and holidays.

Often, it becomes a combination of both. A classic example is a social evening where some are sitting at the table playing games, while others are “working” under the table. Or perhaps the losers of the game face a kinky punishment afterward. There are no limits to the imagination.

What matters most to me is that my slaves are always aware of our hierarchy, even when I treat them with friendship and warmth. They must understand that I can demand their submission at any time and in any place – regardless of the social setting.

It was important for me to mention the non-sexual side first, as it plays such a vital role in our daily lives. Sex is part of life, but it isn’t the entire life. However, let’s focus on the specifically kinky side of these social activities – because I know that’s what you’re really here for.

Serving with Other Slaves

As I described in the report on Tock’s inspection, I brought in a second slave on the second day. Why do I do this? There are several reasons.

The first, as mentioned before, is that many young kinksters feel like they are the only “perverts” their age. I want them to realize they aren’t alone. By meeting others, they can accept their kinky needs more easily and embrace them as their own personal “normal.”

Second, I want to see how they react when others observe them in their role as a slave. It’s a test of self-acceptance. Are they truly comfortable in their position? And, more importantly, are they willing to integrate into a broader hierarchy?

Serving alongside a “slave brother” changes the energy. It’s no longer just about the connection to the Master; it’s about finding their place in a structure. It forces them to drop any lingering shame and stand (or kneel) by their nature in front of others.

Thirdly, I want to see if they fit into my Kink Family, not just if they fit me. A slave might be perfect in a one-on-one setting, but the true test is how they interact with their brothers. My Kink Family is a carefully balanced ecosystem. I look for how they treat each other when I’m not directly addressing them. Is there mutual respect? Do they support one another in their service? Or do they bring ego and toxicity? Integrating a new member is a major decision, and observing them “in the wild” with others is the only way to ensure the long-term harmony of my household.

Some are intimidated by the idea of serving alongside other slaves. They fear a toxic atmosphere filled with constant competition and resentment. But that is exactly what I am testing for in my third point – to ensure that never happens.

My slaves share a very friendly, almost familial bond; they become a kind of “slave brothers.” In fact, as a Master, I sometimes have to watch out that they don’t bond too much and start ganging up on me! 🙂 But don’t worry – I know how to hold my own.

Occasionally, I will deliberately provoke a situation with a competitive edge. The primary goal here is to encourage the slaves to push one another and motivate themselves to achieve peak performance. Sometimes, it is also about establishing a hierarchy among the slaves.

But take note: while this hierarchy can occasionally depend on performance, it depends far more on the Master’s whim and opinion. The slaves must remain acutely aware that the Master can change these hierarchies at any time.

In most situations, however, they operate as a team with the sole mission of satisfying the Master. This often requires them to “play” together – which, for most slaves, is seen as a privilege and brings them a great deal of pleasure.

Serving During Visits from Top Friends

For new slaves, the next step after serving alongside their brothers is serving when my Top friends visit. Before this happens, I must feel that a slave truly trusts me – especially if I intend to let them be used by third parties they don’t yet know.

What primarily interests me is how they behave in the presence of others to whom they hold a subordinate position. How do they handle the vulnerability of being naked while the guests remain fully dressed? This intensity is then heightened by activities that are “normal” in a BDSM context but carry a deeply humiliating character when performed in front of others. For example: How does a slave react when he has to lick my feet in front of guests?

I observe closely how they conduct themselves toward these visitors. Are they service-oriented – both sexually and non-sexually? Do they truly enjoy the act of serving third parties? And finally, there is the most crucial point: Do they still know exactly where they belong, and that their Master always takes priority?

When I allow third parties to use them sexually for the first time, it always happens in my presence. Initially, I start with things I know the slave enjoys – but please, don’t tell my slaves that I’m so considerate of their needs! Hehe.

Of course, as things progress, the focus shifts more and more toward the desires of the guests. However, it is strictly understood that I only “lend” them to people I trust and who play by my rules. Even if the guests are Tops or Masters themselves, the “livestock” remains my property – and they are guests in my house.

This sexual use by third parties is essential for a slave to learn that their sexuality does not exist for their own satisfaction. Instead, it serves the satisfaction of their Master – and that of any third party the Master chooses. The slaves effectively become sexual objects, much like a dildo that I might lend to a friend.

Larger Groups and Private Parties

The difference between a visit from a single Top friend and a large party is the scale and the Master’s span of control. I cannot be everywhere at once. Therefore, the slaves must demonstrate a higher degree of independence. They are often on a “long leash,” moving through the room rather than staying by my side.

At such parties, there is a lot going on, and it’s easy for a slave to get distracted. As a Master, I have to train my boys to maintain their focus on me regardless of all the distractions. I refuse to be a “yeller”,  because if you have to yell, you’ve lost control of the situation. Instead, the boy must be trained to catch my most subtle cues.

I always tell my slaves beforehand: “You are the business card of your Master.” If they treat a guest poorly or provide substandard service, it reflects directly on me.

This high level of motivation can sometimes lead to issues. In large groups or at events where I am not always present, guests can become overstepping. This isn’t just about sexual boundaries; some guests forget that the slave is not their boy, but mine.

My slaves must learn that they are allowed to defend themselves, even in their subordinate role, but they must do so in a friendly, submissive, and correct manner. They are submissive, yes, but they are not everyone’s slave. They are MY property!

Just because someone behaves dominantly toward them does not mean they are obligated to serve that person. Their obligation is to me. If a third party’s demand contradicts my rules or my spirit, it simply will not happen – no matter how much that person tries to play the “Dom.”

I encourage my slaves to “misuse” me as an excuse in these moments: “Sorry Sir, I believe my Master is calling me.” or “Sorry Sir, My Master has forbidden me from doing that. Could you please ask him if this situation is an exception?” are perfect examples of how they can extract themselves from uncomfortable situations without breaking character. By using my authority as a shield, they can remain respectful to the guest while staying absolutely loyal to me.

The most important rule in these situations is the immediate duty to report. They must come to me and inform me of the interaction immediately so that I am fully aware of the situation and can intervene if necessary.

Beyond the duty to report, there is also the duty to perform under pressure. A large party is an endurance test. My boys must learn to be “invisible yet omnipresent” – anticipating a guest’s needs while never losing their submissive posture.

Naturally, this can become overwhelming. When it does, it is vital that they turn directly to their Master. It is then up to me to decide how to handle it – perhaps by taking them out of the game for a while. This might mean a period of “cage time,” allowing them to decompress and find their center again. Although we enjoy equating slaves with objects, they are not machines, they are human beings.

I know, I’m getting quite serious again 🙂 But I’m sure you can imagine that this is also a hell of a lot of fun. I love being the host, filling my dungeon with life, and seeing my guests – as well as my slaves – having the time of their lives. Depending on the group, the protocol is dialed up or down. It’s all about variety and kinky fun.

Plus, hosting guests means bringing world-class kink specialists into the house. Here’s a little video recorded during one of my parties. We were joined by a special friend and one of the best Bondage Masters in Europe: The Puppeteer. This leads to the kind of scenes you see here – a boy in suspension being fisted by several guests.

For my House of MasterMarc Insiders: I’ve tamed the raw intensity of this scene into a 5-minute video at the end of this article. See Pup Spikey fly while getting fucked and fisted.

Outside the Safety of the own Dungeon: Visits, Groups, Events, and Public Spaces

The final and most demanding stage of a slave’s social education is leaving the controlled environment of my dungeon to attend groups or parties hosted by others, clubs, or public kink events. Once we step outside, I am no longer the one setting the house rules. This shift in scenery demands even more discipline and trust.

This also asks a lot of the Master, as he must be acutely aware of his role as a protector and safety anchor in these situations. It helps to keep the slaves close at first – bonding them to you as a “pack.” Metaphorically speaking: start with a short leash and lengthen it whenever you feel it is appropriate, but always be ready to pull that leash back in at any time. It is an unpopular decision, but it serves the protection of your boys and your shared interests.

I love these events because of the “showcase effect.” It is important that third parties see that slaves are, indeed, slaves. This is especially vital for the slaves themselves, as being perceived this way in public provides them with that specific “slave feeling” – the profound realization of their status in the eyes of the world.

Just as they are my “business card” at private parties, they are my ambassadors in the public scene. Their conduct reflects our inner Kink Family’s standards to the entire community. Even in a room full of other Masters and slaves, they must maintain their focus on their Master.

There are many distractions, places and groups that might seem more attractive to a slave in the moment than staying with his Master. Through your leadership, try to establish being by the Master’s side as the “normality.”

This is similar to the concept of a cage: it shouldn’t primarily be felt as a punishment, but rather as a safe space. When they are with you, ensure they don’t get bored. Keep them occupied, even if they aren’t actively being “used.”

Regarding the long leash: be generous, but never uncontrolled. The worst thing that can happen is when slaves begin to view being with their Master as a punishment.

Beside the socializing and the “showcase effect,” there is another point that makes such events attractive to me. Many slaves carry a deep-seated need to experience situations with an abusive character – moments where they truly become an object. Such events, filled with “strangers,” are naturally suited for living out these dynamics under the protection of the Master. However, this is a complex and sensitive topic, which I intend to address in detail in a future article.

Regardless of whether it’s a small group or a public event, aftercare and communication remain essential. It is vital to discuss what happened and to check in on their experiences and emotions. This is not about the slaves having a say in the decision-making process.  It is about understanding them in order to further their development and deepen the relationship and bonding.

Your MasterMarc