Ashley Mercer, 21, from Birmingham likes his spanking harder than vanilla, his harness tight and his subs generous. He tells you why he is a submissive boy in bed and a cash master online, what he still wants to try, and why porn makes him nervous.
I like different things depending on who I’m doing them with.
MasterMarc: Hi Ashley. You’re a 21yo boy exploring his kinks and thinking about to become a porn actor. Can you tell us when and how have you realised, that you are into more than just vanilla and what have been your first steps into the kinky world?
Ashley: Hi Marc. I would say that my first realisation probably came from watching porn. Obviously that gives off quite the glamorous image of what it is really like, but it was a gateway nonetheless. It was only when I made the decision to make my own Twitter account that I discovered a lot more fetishes which appeal to me. I originally made my Twitter because I had been thinking a lot about doing modelling and porn. I still haven’t made my mind up about whether or not to do that yet! My first steps have been purely online really. I’ve met a couple of people who’ve been slightly rougher than vanilla (as you might be able to see from the pic of me after being spanked) and I really enjoyed it.
MasterMarc: Hehe, so you have started to live your submissive side. I know there is also another side of you, but that we will discuss a little later. What kind of sexual action are you into and how submissive are you?
Ashley: I think it’s really hard to put myself in to any one category of ” I like to do X” because I find that I like different things depending on who I’m doing them with. There’s also a lot of things I’ve never tried so I can’t say if I like them or not! When it comes to being submissive, it starts and ends at the bedroom. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t like to be a little rough every now and then, I just like to take it a bit of a step further. Harder spanking etc. Some stuff I think is fetish/submissive others in the scene will probably call vanilla.
MasterMarc: As I’ve written on sadOsam many times, there are no standards in fetish and sm. So it doesn’t matter what other people are thinking. Just the involved people are important. Do you have some kinks you would like to try?
Ashley: I’ve always had a slight desire to explore watersports/piss play. I don’t know why but there is something that intrigues me about it. The same goes for wax. I don’t know the official fetish term for it – you know when they drop wax on you? I think I would like that but not on my balls! The other one I would like to try most is probably some sort of group thing. Maybe bukkake. But I want to be in the middle!
MasterMarc: I see a little dirty and also pain has an attraction to you. What kind of piss play do you have in mind? And have you ever tried piss games by yourself, for example during you have been taking a shower?
Ashley: Yes actually I have done it on my own and that is what makes me feel like I should try with someone else. It’s hard to say what kind because I don’t know what I’ll like until I try it out
MasterMarc: There are many guys trying such kind of kinky action alone at home. Often people are ashamed to talk about, but there is no reason why. You can be sure that you’re not the first doing it and you are not alone with your desire. How difficult was it for you, Ashley, to search for real kinky contacts and to meet with them for real action?
Ashley: It was easy! I just went on Grindr! There’s plenty of guys on there and I didn’t struggle to find someone to explore with.
MasterMarc: It’s great that you haven’t had problems with it. Could you give some advice for newbie kinksters who haven’t done this step yet?
Ashley: Sure. It’s all about trust. If you’re nervous and committed to trying out your kink, make sure the other guy is expecting it too. And if you’re REALLY nervous meet somewhere public first and chat to them face to face. It will make things much easier when you’re on your knees in front of him!
MasterMarc: There is also another side of you. You’re a cashmaster. Could you please explain our readers, what it means?
Ashley: Of course. Findom stands for Financial Domination and I personally think it’s one of the most ultimate forms of the Dom/sub relationship. There’s a lot more to it that some testosterone fuelled man calling everyone a fag and demanding money. It’s about the sacrifice and the level of humiliation that is difficult to get from other sources. Not to mention that with online apps it’s really easy to access online.
MasterMarc: Can you give us a little insight into that kind of action? What are you doing? What is the slave doing?
Ashley: Well it’s hard to describe. Plus it’s different for everyone. I personally prefer to give the sub different opportunities to submit depending on their desires. If they want me to humiliate them then I will. But not everyone wants that. Others for example want to have a “tax” set up where they submit a fixed amount each week.
MasterMarc: About how much money do we talk and what do “slaves” get for their money?
Ashley: Again it varies to from person to person. Some subs like to go all the way and genuinely get themselves in to debt. Others prefer to tribute when they can. Sometimes it can be a small amount between nothing and £20 a week. Other times it can be over £150-200 in a single day. With regards to what the subs get, again it’s different. Some like the humiliation. Some are addicted to the praise that their Dom can give them and from seeing their Dom thrive. Others love the secrecy of it. Being online, it’s easy to keep it as a secret submission.
MasterMarc: You have told us before, that you are interested in doing porn. Can you tell us, what the attraction of the porn industry is?
Ashley: It seems like a fun industry to get in to and the idea of guys jerking off to me is hot! It would definitely have to be something on the side though. I was motivated to apply by my friend because I had been talking about it for ages. I imagine I will be incredibly nervous and that’s mostly what’s stopping me at the moment – performance anxiety! I’ve had offers from some studios but I haven’t accepted anything yet.
MasterMarc: If you decide to do it, what kind of movies would you like to be part of?
Ashley: I haven’t decided yet, but probably just more vanilla themed ones! I would only do a scene with someone I find attractive so it will likely be twink on twink or twink on jock. although I could probably be persuaded to do more by a big muscle man
