Fears, Panic, Scared of Losing Control…

A column …

Personal thoughts of a sadistic Master

So you are not the typical average SM-“Player”?

You know what I mean… there are thousands of Doms, Masters or Sirs out there. Always dressed in leather or rubber, always a crop in the hand or a cigar in their mouth, most likely being heavily overweighted, wearing a full beard, and as the cherry on the cake, wearing one of these cheap leather caps…

That’s not what you are looking for, right? You don’t want one of these “Doms” to be in charge of what you have to offer. They are simply not good enough for you.

You are young, well trained because you visit your local gym more than just regularly, willing to submit your body, and even more important, your soul, to the right one. But these typical stereotypes is really not your thing, right?

You are looking for someone you can have a conversation with and maybe even learn from.  Someone who challenges you, someone who inspires you and puts new ideas in your head. Someone who likes parties and going to clubs and events just like you.

Let’s imagine you find your prince ?

What would you be willing to give up for him? Would you accept that he collars you? Would you accept to wear his shackles and manacles? Would you accept that he canes or whips you? Would you accept to become his property?

 Let’s go deeper… what if he calls you inferior just because you are a black or mulatto?

Let’s imagine your roots are from Surinam …or Cuba ?? or Haiti ?? or whatever.  Would you accept that your master calls you nigger or coon?

As a real slave you will have no choice, no option how you will be treated. You maybe kept naked, chained and collared and as a real slave you will lose all control. Your life will be depending alone on your owner.

All these things are scary. All these things can create fears and panic. The question now is: What do you do? How do you react? Yes, you can run away and only dream and fantasies about what might have been but that is not a good alternative.

The best thing you can do is to face your fears. Give it a try. Agree to a prior defined period of time. If you liked what what was done to you do another trial but this time longer than the one before.

You have fear to spend time in a cage? Give it a try. Test it. Find out if you can’t beat your fears. You are scared about losing all control? Test it for one hour, than three, than six.

You think you can’t handle pain? Also that is a thing that can be trained. Try to take 20 lashes with a mild flogger. You will be surprised how easy it is even if it looks super scary. If you can handle that you can advance to the next level and try a harder flogger. It’s the same rule for a cane. Don’t let that scare you so much that you run away. Face your fears.

And a good master will see when you have reached your limit and so something else with you. But constant training is important. Running away is NEVER AN OPTION!

Yours,

Illustration by Theo Blaze

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