He’s a kinky Chinese Master in London, and he’s here to challenge stereotypes. We talk to MrLeatherRubber about his journey from a secret shoe fetish in China to becoming a dominant force in the UK scene. He shares his powerful philosophy on what makes an excellent Master: it’s not just sex, it’s a deep, psychological mind game.
MasterMarc: Hi MrLeatherRubber. You’re a kinky chinese guy living in London now. When have you realized that you’re into fetish and SM? Do you remember about your first steps into the kinky world?
MrLeatherRubber: Hi MasterMarc, First of all, I feel extremely lucky to be born kinky and into leather/rubber. I remember my first ever fetish experience was when I was 13 only, that my brother-in-law left a pair of very smart and shiny black leather shoes at my parents house, and they caught my eyes at the first sight, it kind of turned me on straight away. I felt the urge to wear them is so overwhelming, so hard to resist. So I put them on despite they are way too big for my feet, went out when the sky got dark as I was too shy to be seen wearing such a smart and sexy pair of leather shoes at that age. I then walked around on the busy street constantly checking the black and shiny leather shoes on my feet, it made my cock rock hard! I had to walk slowly and carefully so no one can spot i have a boner!
MasterMarc: Hehe, what do you think is the attraction of shiny black leather shoes? And what has been your next steps in your kinky life? How have you started to live your kinks?
MrLeatherRubber: I think its the combination of glossy shine and black colour plus the texture of the leather turn me on, don’t ask me why these things turn me on, god knows, it is in my blood, i believe! I then start to find leather jacket, leather boots, leather pants, and leather harness are extremely sexy, and later it leads me into rubber as well. However, i am only into black coloured leather and rubber, no other colour as the main colour of leather rubber gears could ever attract my eyes. I think black is the sexiest and most masculine colour of all!
Thanks to leather, it brought me into the BDSM world too! Thank god, this world of BDSM is like a wonderland once I entered i never want to go back to the mundane vanilla life! At first, I read lots of articles and books about it and tried very hard to gain as much knowledge as i can. Then i started to hook up with more like-minded guys on the fetish dating app, the more I played the more i realized how incredibly this BDSM world is! It is so mind-blowing, so subversive, so mind-twisting, and so addictive!
MasterMarc: You’re 36 years old now and you moved from China to the UK 10 years ago. Have you also lived the kink lifestyle in China or have you stared in Europe?
MrLeatherRubber: Unfortunately I didn’t enter into this kinky world fully and freely until I came to the UK. I only experienced light bondage session back in China ten years ago. There was no dating app nor fetish website around in China back then, even if I wanted to explore , I had nowhere go. But now, thanks to the internet, people are so easily to find their like-minded peers on every possible sub-cultures! I now have many thousands of kinky/fetish followers on China’ social media like Weibo and Wechat, as well as the “notorious but addictive” worldwide famous app Tumblr. I am so proud to present myself to the fetish kinky world that masculine, creative but sensible Chinese top master guys do exist, contrary to the way-too-often Western stereotypes of East Asian gay men.
MasterMarc: I know they exist as there are also sweet and sporty Asian slaves. But it seems often that SM in China is less sexual. Is that correct?
MrLeatherRubber: No, it is not correct, it is a misconception. I may say the level of BDSM knowledge and equipment in China’s gay BDSM communities might not be as advanced as in the West, but it is very sexual in every possible ways. In essence, BDSM and fetish activities is all about kinky sexy play, isn’t it? Without sexual desire and sexual action as the driven force, BDSM and fetish play become pointless, it is universal, regardless which country you live in, right? In fact, I have been sent private sexual explicit messages and photos on my fetish social media profile by my Chinese fans almost on a daily basis, they try very hard to impress me in every possible sexual way… and i know there are numerous private gay fetish chat groups on Wechat, they constantly post kinky photos (including mine without my permission…) and discuss about kinky sex… I guess you might come cross some group of people who appear to be only interested in bondage or just dress up in full leather and pose for pictures, but I believe this is just the foreplay which will finally lead to some exiting sexual activities in the end, although it might not necessarily be sexual intercourse.
MasterMarc: Hehe. Nice that they try to impress you. 🙂 With the experiences of the two fetish worlds you’re living in what would you say is a good top or master?
MrLeatherRubber: Being a good top is easy: fuck your bottom boy happy, very happy!
But being a good master requires a lot more. You need to be mentally strong, tough, strict and know exactly what you are doing to start with as a qualified master; then being trustworthy, able to listen and act sensibly towards your slave/sub boi could make you a good master. While a excellent master understands the psychology and personality of his slave/sub boi, knows what his boi is good and bad at and make the most of it by training him to his full potential and best performance. Furthermore, being adventurous, creative, and able to make the SM game more fun and challenging, to my mind, are the top qualities an excellent master would need to obtain.
MasterMarc: You’re right. As good master you should know better than your boy, what he needs and can handle in a situation, because boys in action wants, if they trust you, normally more than they can handle. I’m sure you know this situation, that you have to stop even if the boy is crying for more.
MrLeatherRubber: Yes, exactly! It is the master who takes responsibility and take control where this game goes and where it should end at; as a sensible master you also shouldn’t allow your boi to do anything of out his depth despite his constant beggings…
MasterMarc: Responsibility is a good keyword. That doesn’t sound like “I am the MASTER and I do whatever I want!”
MrLeatherRubber: BDSM play is an exciting fun game in essence albeit it may appear to be scary to the outsiders, to my own experience. Any good fun game requires responsible players who follows the rules, enjoy it and make the most of it, particularly for masters who lead the game. If someone thinks “I am the MASTER and I do whatever I want”, then he fails to understand master and slave are just two equally important roles in the game, a master can not do anything he wants, instead he must do within what is already set for the rules of the game. Masters plan, direct and execute the game, slaves do whatever they are told by masters, but it doesn’t mean masters should ignore the desire of the slave boys, their ability of taking orders, and to what extend they can endure the harsh punishment. A good master who must adore and understand his slave boy, he must be a good listener, trustworthy, tough but very sensible and responsible, therefore his slave boy will submit himself to his master wholeheartedly, unconditionally, and happily. As a result, an responsible master gains his respect and love from his slave boy on top of the apparent sexual appeal, so the BDSM game will be a lot more fun, entrusted to be more boundary breaking, challenging and exciting.
MasterMarc: You’re totally right. I would also say that SM is 80% a mindgame. Do you agree?
MrLeatherRubber: BDSM is largely a mind game, I couldn’t agree more! BDSM is actually making hardcore sexual fantasy come true, to my opinion. It is not just physical sexual intercourse anymore, it is a much more advanced sexual game that involves mental engagement which adds depth, excitement and huge impact to the physical part of the game.
In the case of master/slave role play, when a master and slave boy really click and gel is the moment when the master takes full control of the slave boy MENTALLY and the slave boy hand over this FREEWILL to his master happily and securely. This bond is built on deep trust of each other, it is a mental state that the master feels the urge to control and dominate and protect his slave boy whilst the slave boy feel strongly to submit to his master. For example, when both parties enter into this state, the slave boy can’t help himself to kneel down in front of his master, wanting to serve his master so much, to be his master’s sex toy, to be used and abused, while the master train and use the slave boy passionately by giving out various instructions, orders, and punishments, so the slave boy will learn what his master likes, enjoys and hates, so he could serve his master better in future. So it is obvious that this is not just sex anymore, this is a game of mind control and mental submission, this is a game of deeper mental engagement and higher reward of mental satisfactions.
In the case of bondage, (although I am not massively into it), it appears to be very physical on the outside, slave or sub boys are bound up and then his sex genitals are stimulated and abused by his master. It is true that the abuse gives the slave boy physical pleasure. However, I believe it is the mental pleasure excites both rope master and slave boy the most. On the one hand, the master enjoy the craftsmanship of his rope work and the “sexual abuse” on the naked and helpless boy, whilst on the other hand, the slave boy’s desire and fantasy of being bound up and abused by his master are being fulfilled.
So let us all enjoy this fantastic and exciting mind game!
