Ever get unexpectedly turned on in public? Boyfromipanema, our Texas sub, spills his kinky journey! Discover how a hot yoga teacher sparked his submission, why denial makes him cum, and how he masterfully explores edging, milking, and the thrilling power of giving up control. Get ready for pure pleasure!
MasterMarc: How long have you already been living out your kinky side, and how did you come to that?
Boyfromipanema: I started my kink journey 5-7 years ago. I started very slow, and in some ways, I’m still taking my exploration very slow. One of my earliest experiences was unintentional. I was in a yoga class, on my hands and knees of course ;). The yoga teacher (he was super hot) manually corrected my posture, and I got instantly hard. I was confused at the time, and had a little trouble hiding my boner in yoga shorts. But in retrospect, it makes a lot of sense.
Around the same time, I also started to be turned on by denial. Ironically, the thought of being told I wasn’t allowed to cum would actually make me cum… still does. It was a natural transition from there to chastity, bondage, and other forms of submission.
MasterMarc: If you talk about “other forms of submission,” what do you mean exactly?
Boyfromipanema: I was talking about things like acts of service, both domestic and sexual. Also, giving up control generally, like following commands, letting him choose my outfits, etc. I also like to be trained.
Domination & Control: The Allure of Letting Go
MasterMarc: Sounds like you’re more than just a sub guy. Do you see yourself as a slave?
Boyfromipanema: Nah, I’m not really a slave. I still have a lot of autonomy, and my bf is very caring and considerate, so I’m only giving up control as a fantasy. Also, all of this is in short play scenes.
MasterMarc: What is the attraction of giving up control?
Boyfromipanema: I’m a very controlled person in my regular life. I have high emotional walls and show very little vulnerability. It’s nice to be able to let that go. And specifically, it’s really nice to hand that control over to the bf because it also brings us closer together and forges a strong bond based in trust. Now, why is it a sexual thing that turns me on? I’m not totally sure; I sort of stumbled into the sexual part and ran with it. I’m still figuring out that part.
MasterMarc: You’ve told us that you get turned on by denial. What makes the denial so interesting to you?
Boyfromipanema: I think it is an extension of the conversation about giving up control above. But in the case of denial, the feeling gets stronger over time. The longer the denial goes, the more horny I get, and the focus of all that horny energy is on the person in control. Also, there is an element of self-control. Following through with my denial gives me a big sense of pride, similar to accomplishing an important goal.
MasterMarc: But I think the time factor is also an important thing of the denial as kink. So isn’t that difficult to live in just short play scenes, as you have told us that you’re into?
Boyfromipanema: Yeah, very true. There are lots of kinds of denial in my book. But if we’re talking about duration, then I break them into these categories. I’ve learned I’m not really into long-term denial. After three or four days, I lose my excitement about it and it starts to feel routine. It also interrupts my sleep.
Also, the bf really likes my dick and genuinely wants to make me cum, so I don’t really practice long-term anymore. For a day or two, it is still very powerful for me. It totally changes my mood and energy, and I get super horny and feel a strong need to cum.
Then there is edging, which I think speaks for itself, and finally, there is the threat of denial. The threat of denial is the most powerful for me. Being told “I’m not going to let you cum” will get me instantly hard. I guess technically, it’s not just being told, but the thought of agreeing to it. And if I’m having sex or jacking and start to think about handing over control of my orgasm, it puts me over the edge almost every time. Even typing this out gets me hard.
Edging & Milking: The Art of Cum Control
MasterMarc: Okay then, let us talk a little about edging and milking. As everybody sees it a little differently, I’ve to ask you about the differences between a good edging and a good milking?
Boyfromipanema: Yeah, they are definitely similar, and I see them both as forms of cum control. Edging is jacking but you’re not allowed to cum. You can be edged or edge yourself. And milking is jacking where you’re forced to cum whether you want to or not. And in milking, you also don’t get a choice if it is a ruined or full orgasm. And in my book, you can’t milk yourself, it’s only milking if someone else is doing it.
As for what makes them “good,” I think it’s mostly about mindset, communication, and connection between the two guys. I’m personally a big fan of verbal play. Dirty talk gets me a good headspace, and what’s being said can either put me over the edge or hold me back (in a good way) much more than the physical sensations, although they are important too. Communication is also important in both because the “top” needs to know how close the boy is to their edge.
MasterMarc: What is a good edging?
Boyfromipanema: Sure, for edging, I really like to be restrained. It really heightens the control element. I’m especially fond of the spread eagle position because it gives full access but is still comfortable. And as much as I love gags, it’s probably better to be able to talk because knowing how close you are is important. It’s also a lot of fun to throw some humiliation in because while being edged, I do feel pretty pathetic (in a good way), so being belittled a little bit by my predicament is super hot. I also like being rubbed on more than just my dick. My taint, nipples, and hole are also hard-wired to my dick, so getting aggressive with them is important. Really, my skin is sensitive in general, so my favorite way to get edged, when I have a choice, is with the bf cuddled up on my side, whispering in my ear.
MasterMarc: Sounds like you really like to get edged. How is it with the milking?
Boyfromipanema: Honestly, I think I like milking more. The word is used in lots of ways, but I like to be milked as a sub and being told when to cum. My favorite milking is probably pup style. Like when I’ve just been fucked on all fours and the bf leaves me in that position and plugs his load in me with the pup tail. Then he lays on his back so I can rest my chest on his and he has access to my little pup boy dick to thrust against his hand. I like other ways too (sometimes he even rides me to milk me), but this pup way is my favorite because of the headspace and the strong connection. It’s usually his encouraging words whispered in my ear that put me over the edge, leaving a puddle on a strategically placed towel below.
Orgasms: Full, Ruined, or Both?
MasterMarc: What do you think is better for boys like you: to get milked with a full or with a ruined orgasm?
Boyfromipanema: That’s tough to answer and really depends on the boy. But for me, I prefer full most of the time. I think the build-up and the sexual tension, but I also like the release. Sometimes I’ll get a ruined orgasm, followed shortly by a full one, so I guess my official answer is “both,” haha.
MasterMarc: Oh, I tend more to the ruined orgasm as I think that the boy should find his satisfaction in satisfying real men. :))) What do you think about my point of view?
Boyfromipanema: Yeah, I definitely see that aspect. And if the Sir gets satisfaction from his boy being on edge and horny, then the boy gets a lot out of a ruined orgasm as well. In my specific case, the bf actually likes to make me cum and how silly, stupid, and calm it makes me, so we usually both get off. But sometimes I actually ask to not get off depending on my mood; he has overruled that request before because he usually knows what’s actually best for me.
What do you think, Kinkfinity fam? Does Boyfromipanema’s journey into submission and the power of denial resonate with your own desires? Let us know in the comments below!
